Premature ejaculation does not pass with age, but there may be a cure
There are medical therapies available aimed at treating premature ejaculation. However, none of the currently available therapies offers a permanent cure for premature ejaculation. Therefore, it is important to improve the understanding of underlying mechanisms of how ejaculation works; and then, it may be possible to control it.
Before beginning to learn more about premature ejaculation, it is important to understand that it is a common sexual dysfunction affecting approximately 30% of men. There is scientific literature available that discusses the various causes of premature ejaculation, which may be helpful in understanding the cause in your case.
According to the American Psychiatric Association, “Manual of Statistical Diagnosis of Mental Disorders”, premature ejaculation is defined as persistent or recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation accompanying intercourse that happens soon after penetration. This is why the term, premature ejaculation, is used.
The development of the condition leading to premature ejaculation commonly occurs as one age. As such, while there is a common belief that aging solves the problem of premature ejaculation, this is not true. There are statistics that support the suggestion that premature ejaculation can equally occur at any adult age, but with different underlying reasons.
According to the NHS survey conducted the Public Health System of England in 1999, approximately 30% of men between the ages of 18-29 years admitted to sexual problems that affected their relationships.
Similar problems were also observed in 32% of men between the ages of 30-39 years as well as 28% of men between the ages of 40-49 years and 31% of men between the ages of 50-59 years.
“Premature ejaculation can disrupt relationships and negatively affect people’s lives,” says Dr. David Edwards, the President of the British Society of Sexual Medicine (BSSM).
“When a patient is diagnosed with premature ejaculation, my job is to reassure him that it will be alright and to explain the problem,” states Dr. Edwards.
Dr. David Edwards explains, “There are many treatment options available for premature ejaculation. The BSSM offers an algorithm on the website that can be used as a guide for the available different treatments, while also specifying which treatments are appropriate for each specific case.”
Well, so how does it work?
There is a broad spectrum of available advice and techniques that may be used to control premature ejaculation. This may include having frequent sex (probably the most popular), pre-sex masturbation, or having sex with a woman on top.
A simpler approach may be to use thicker condoms. Using a thicker condom decreases penis sensitivity and may delay ejaculation. Behavioral strategies such as “start-stop” and “squeeze” may also be effective, but these approaches do not provide a long-term solution.
Solving the problem of premature ejaculation with these techniques can take a few months, if it occurs at all. Many men have to continue to use exercises and techniques indefinitely. On average, 50-95% of men who use sexual techniques can eventually solve the problem of premature ejaculation.
There is a high risk of relapse if significant changes in sexual life occur. For example, a new partner or a stressful event that makes the individual anxious. Therefore, the sooner these techniques can be learned and mastered, the better.
In some cases medications like Priligy, an oral tablet aimed at reducing penis sensitivity, are recommended. This pharmacotherapy approach may be a quick fix to solve the problem effectively. However, while Priligy can be taken indefinitely to control premature ejaculation, taking this medication does not cure the condition.
What is the “start-stop” technique?
“Start-stop” is by far the most straightforward technique and can be practiced alone or with a partner. The method involves stimulating the penis and stopping before you feel like you are about to ejaculate.
Performing the “start-stop” technique is simple, involving stimulation for 30-60 seconds, stopping, and then starting again the feeling of control is regained. Repeat this sequence of events 4-5 times, “starting” and “stopping” prior to achieving an orgasm. Finally, ejaculate so that the “non-return point” can be identified.
The “start-stop” technique may be effective. However, many couples complain that this therapeutic approach is a disturbing and frustrating game. Nevertheless, the “start-stop” technique may be more enjoyable if it is included into sexual rituals while focusing on sources of pleasure other than the penis.
What is the “squeeze” technique?
The “squeeze” technique works by squeezing the penis in the area between the shaft and the glans penis for about 30 seconds just before ejaculation. The “squeeze” stops the ejaculation from occurring, but it can also affect the erection. If deciding to use this technique, this process should be repeated 4-5 times until deciding on when to have the orgasm. This method has to be practiced for several months and requires great skill from the man and his partner.
The idea behind this “squeeze” technique is that man will be able to recognize the “no return point” and will learn to delay ejaculations without “the squeeze.” However, couples also say that the “squeeze” technique can be frustrating and disruptive to sexual activity.
Take care of your partner!
Sexual prelude helps to increase partner satisfaction and to delay the time to ejaculation. Extended preludes may also work to improve a couple’s relationship by reducing performance-related dissatisfaction, frustration, and anxiety.
It is important to remember that the more pressure men feel leading up to or during sex, the more likely they are to experience premature ejaculation.
Improving partner-to-partner communication can also help with overcoming issues while matching your wishes with those of your partner.
In brief, what are the best tips?
1) Thick condom. Try this approach if you think your penis is too sensitive because a thick condom can help decrease penis sensitivity.
2) Focus on other sexual pleasures. This approach may be used to lessen anxiety and help improve control over the timing of ejaculation.
3) Talk to your doctor. In certain cases, premature ejaculation may be a treatable condition.
In conclusion, if suffering from premature ejaculation, first, it is important to recognize that this condition is prevalent among all adult men. However, also know that there are treatment options available, but that just lying down waiting for age to solve the problem will not work.